If you are a man and you’ve read my Article on “What women want” which really was all about female midlife crisis, you might be a little more understanding of a women’s plight and maybe even have a little more appreciation for your partner, but there’s also a chance that a small part of you might also be saying to yourself;

“Well what about me?”

“I have challenges, I have responsibilities, I have dreams.”

The reality is that men go though just as many phases of their lives as women do, some are obviously biologically different from women, but many are in deed emotionally, very much the same or similar.

Some are natural & some are imposed, but regardless of who they are, or where they are, they will probably all experience some or all of these thoughts and feelings whether they want to or not.

Currently the largest group of people in the World, are the combined groups called Baby Boomers & X Gen’s.

If you are a Baby Boomer (born between 1946 and 1964, which makes you between ages 45 & 63) you might be saying to yourself “I’ve worked hard all of my life to try and get ahead and provide for my family, now I just want to have some fun. I’m tired of striving and driving everyday. I’ve earned it. This should be my time!” [Read more →]

Thinking and our individual process for thinking, is a learnt and largely unconscious thing

that we each do, when we are not consciously and deliberately thinking about something in particular.

That’s why we can successfully do simple things like walk down a busy street while chatting to a friend and

successfully negotiate most of the streets hazards like avoiding bumping into other people, all at the same time.

We’re not necessarily consciously thinking about it, yet we are still multi-tasking in that way while leaving it in the background of our overall thinking, while our attention is someplace else.

Another example of that is; have you ever driven somewhere and just arrived? Not being able to consciously recall parts of the journey because you had wandered off into thought.

Having said that, even the way most people think, when they are concentrating on a particular thought or event or idea, is still subject to the unconscious rules that a person uses to do things. Let’s take decision making for example.

A decision might be made based on facts or information, or from conversations and recommendations, or on a previous experience, or on loyalty or obligation or simply because it feels right.
And that process may have taken a short time or a long time over a number of times.
Whatever it is; the person making the decision, will probably use the decision making strategy that they always use (in that area of their life) all of the time.

That means that most people aren’t aware of how they make their decisions about a thing or how they make their judgments of a thing.

Largely for the same reasons.

It’s a unconscious routine, or habitual way of thinking, that they have gotten used to. And as such, it runs in the background of their thinking, all of the time. Like the sub routine in a computer.

What You Dwell on Grows

There’s a big “So what!” in there somewhere so I’ll get to my point.

My point is that the thoughts that dominate our mind, how we fill that space; both useful or un-useful, are the very building blocks on which all things are created.

If we fill our minds eye with thoughts of loss or lack, then that’s quite literally all we will see.
Because our Reticular Activating System (Our Brains Built in Laser Guidance and Sighting System) will only seek and find the people events and circumstances that are consistent with what we fill our minds with. And if that happens to be un-useful, so the downward spiral begins.

It’s the same with eating, fill up on junk food and you’ll literally be full of junk. Clogging up your body and accumulating fat.

If you fill your mind with junk, guess what, the same thing happens with your creativity adaptability problem solving resilience and overall thinking.

But! If you fill your body with “Fuel” foods you will be full of energy.
And; if you fill your mind with “Fueling” thoughts, you will be amazed by what you can achieve.

Make your body and mind, junk free zones!

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