Figuring out what’s really important to us in our lives, and then trying to get it, is what the vast majority of us spend most of our lives trying to achieve.
When you add the further challenge of trying to keep all of our life roles and responsibilities balanced, then for many people, at some level, that sense of satisfaction or personal fulfillment is just not there.

If we are lucky enough to experience that, then there’s often that underlying discomfort that comes from wondering if we can actually keep it all together.

What many people tell me, is that there are just TOO many ongoing pressures in modern life;
family, careers, education for our kids, wanting to live in a nice house in a safe community, travel, financial security, job security, personal freedoms, enjoying your retirement, your health, wanting loving relationships, and maybe wanting to be the best at something. All that means that many people feel crushed, under the weight of those needs.

And that’s the very reason why being clear about our values and goals, the things that really drive us, is at the heart of achieving our very own personal success and happiness.

That’s when many people turn to goal setting as an avenue that may hopefully, save them from their rut. But that doesn’t always pan out.
Instead it just leaves many feeling even more disillusioned than they were before.

Fighting with yourself won’t get you what you want.
One of the reasons why traditional goal setting doesn’t work is because people fight with themselves.

Now that might sound funny but when you think about it, people argue with themselves all of the time.

In the privacy of their own mind, they argue and debate what’s fair or unfair, what’s good or bad, what’s right or wrong, what they should or should not do and so on.
Often but not always, there are parts of themselves that are polarized between this or that. One goal competing with another. Or one belief working at cross purposes with another belief. Or the expectations of other people, maybe in conflict with your own.

Let me give you a few examples;

A husband may work hard long and late because it’s important to him that his wife and kids live in a nice house. And even though his family know that, they still feel an emptiness, because he’s not there.

A mother go’s to work because she has to, or because she wants a career, but then feels guilty because she believes that she doesn’t invest enough time with her kids.

Or, say someone wants to start a new business; one part of them wants to just go do it, while another part of them is to afraid to, in case it doesn’t work out.

Or one part of them wants to give up smoking while another part craves for the buzz that smoking gives them.

Or one part of them wants to loss weight while another part still needs the comfort they feel, from eating constantly.

So they are stuck; one part of them wants to have a go, while another part is afraid to, because of the perceived consequences, of either failing or succeeding.

So when it comes to goal setting. Traditional goal setting doesn’t always work because it doesn’t necessarily address those associated emotional conflicts that we experience as real things, when we think about what we want.

Life’s Big Secret

The Big Secret of how to move from frustration or paralysis to freedom and happiness.
And how to keep it all balanced in a sustainable way is actually much easier than most people think. In fact the answer to the big secret is largely, already within their reach. They just don’t know that.

For more details check out;

http://www.core-resourcing.com/VS1/