So often I hear people say, “You just have to accept it” or “oh well - I guess that was just meant to happen” - fuey!

What I’ve come to learn over the past few years and this has been very much reinforced lately with my association with David Martin in becoming involved with the creation of the Go For Gold personal transformation program -  the reality is, the decisions we make and the subsequent actions we take, dictate what happens in the course of our lives - both in relation to achieving our long term goals and what happens to us, and how we feel about what happens to us, on a daily basis.

Sure, there will always be things that do happen that are outside of our sphere of control - however, how we react and the meaning we attach to those events is entirely controlled by us.

When you start to take this level of personal responsibility for your own actions and the subsequent outcomes that you get to enjoy - suddenly the world can become a very different place. Regardless of economy, the government, your boss or any other external factor that in the past you may have been tempted to “point the finger” at.

Not only is this liberating, it also allows you to feel very much more in control.  And when you feel in control and focussed - you are better able and of more use to, those around you.

If you are looking to make positive changes in your life and take control of your thinking, your actions and ultimately your financial well being, your health and your happiness, I’d really encourage you to start the Go for Gold program today!

Below is an intro video that David prepared to step you through what’s inside workbooks 1,2 and 3.

There is another video that shows workbooks 4,5 and 6 available here.

Even before these recessionary times, many of the people that I’ve meet have complained that they feel bone tried.

They’ll say things like “Why am I so tired?” “Even if I get to bed early, I still wake up feeling tired.”
Then they try to figure out some of the possible answers, like;
“Maybe I shouldn’t drink so much coffee” or “Maybe I need a new pillow or bed.” Or they theorize about some other reason.

Of course these suggestions could be apart of the solution. However commonly, in their heart they know that there has to be more to it than that.
If I ask a few questions about how that person is feeling about life generally, their answers often lead me to a deeper conclusion about the cause of their stress and unrest.

They say things like. “I just feel so frustrated” , “Something’s missing in my life”, “Why can’t I get what I want?”
Especially at the moment, right across the globe, as positive as they may try to be, many people are also experiencing very real fears about their futures.

And when I ask them to talk about it they tell me things like;
“I just can’t seem to get ahead”.
“My life’s not going anywhere”. And
“I don’t know if I’m going to have a job next week”
Some people say, “I don’t know what I want any more.
Or worse, that at their age (between 35 & 55) they’ve had enough of having to work hard everyday.
They’re looking for the pay off that they imagined they would some how have by this age.
The pay off that would make life easier.

Feeling Stuck Between a Rock and a Hard Place

These thoughts and feelings can often represent what I call “Stuck Points.”

That Stuck Point isn’t necessarily a physical thing or a tangible barrier, it’s something else. It’s an imaginary line, a mental obstacle such as an unfulfilled value or goal or a limiting belief or a dissatisfying personal rule!
Which together are all maintaining their current feelings and their current way of life.
Which often, looks a lot like becoming stuck in a rut.

The problem with ruts is that they kill hope and they make us feel tired.

Ruts are commonly surrounded by thoughts about what’s right or wrong, good or bad, what’s possible or impossible.
Beliefs about what they think they are capable or incapable of or even deserve.

Those thoughts, maintain their “Status Quo,” “their current way of being.” Their current health, happiness & financial situation and this imprisons their thinking.

Ruts handicap their attitudes and drain them of their energy, which overtime erodes their health, vitality and their outlook on life.

For many people it paralyses them into doing nothing or even sabotaging the progress they may have already made.

By the way, not all Status Quo are un-useful, only the one’s that stop a person from being who they really want to be. Or that hold them back from living the life they really truly want.

Frustrated & Unhappy

People ask me, “So how does that happen & how does that become my life.” “I don’t want to be Stuck.”

The answer is, your life doesn’t have to be that way. Regardless of the global economy. Regardless of the weather. Regardless of your personal situation. You can still choose the way you feel, you can choose what you focus on, and you can choose what you do.

And often it is easier to change than what you may think - when you know how.

That’s why I call it a “Stuck Point” in time, not a “Stuck for all time.”

For more information on how to get past “Stuck Points” and how these can hold you back - please go http://www.core-resourcing.com/VS1/index.html

Figuring out what’s really important to us in our lives, and then trying to get it, is what the vast majority of us spend most of our lives trying to achieve.
When you add the further challenge of trying to keep all of our life roles and responsibilities balanced, then for many people, at some level, that sense of satisfaction or personal fulfillment is just not there.

If we are lucky enough to experience that, then there’s often that underlying discomfort that comes from wondering if we can actually keep it all together.

What many people tell me, is that there are just TOO many ongoing pressures in modern life;
family, careers, education for our kids, wanting to live in a nice house in a safe community, travel, financial security, job security, personal freedoms, enjoying your retirement, your health, wanting loving relationships, and maybe wanting to be the best at something. All that means that many people feel crushed, under the weight of those needs.

And that’s the very reason why being clear about our values and goals, the things that really drive us, is at the heart of achieving our very own personal success and happiness.

That’s when many people turn to goal setting as an avenue that may hopefully, save them from their rut. But that doesn’t always pan out.
Instead it just leaves many feeling even more disillusioned than they were before.

Fighting with yourself won’t get you what you want.
One of the reasons why traditional goal setting doesn’t work is because people fight with themselves.

Now that might sound funny but when you think about it, people argue with themselves all of the time.

In the privacy of their own mind, they argue and debate what’s fair or unfair, what’s good or bad, what’s right or wrong, what they should or should not do and so on.
Often but not always, there are parts of themselves that are polarized between this or that. One goal competing with another. Or one belief working at cross purposes with another belief. Or the expectations of other people, maybe in conflict with your own.

Let me give you a few examples;

A husband may work hard long and late because it’s important to him that his wife and kids live in a nice house. And even though his family know that, they still feel an emptiness, because he’s not there.

A mother go’s to work because she has to, or because she wants a career, but then feels guilty because she believes that she doesn’t invest enough time with her kids.

Or, say someone wants to start a new business; one part of them wants to just go do it, while another part of them is to afraid to, in case it doesn’t work out.

Or one part of them wants to give up smoking while another part craves for the buzz that smoking gives them.

Or one part of them wants to loss weight while another part still needs the comfort they feel, from eating constantly.

So they are stuck; one part of them wants to have a go, while another part is afraid to, because of the perceived consequences, of either failing or succeeding.

So when it comes to goal setting. Traditional goal setting doesn’t always work because it doesn’t necessarily address those associated emotional conflicts that we experience as real things, when we think about what we want.

Life’s Big Secret

The Big Secret of how to move from frustration or paralysis to freedom and happiness.
And how to keep it all balanced in a sustainable way is actually much easier than most people think. In fact the answer to the big secret is largely, already within their reach. They just don’t know that.

For more details check out;

http://www.core-resourcing.com/VS1/