Hi,

If you’ve already signed up for the free goal setting template and on our list you may well have already read one of our other free reports “Why Traditional Goal Setting Doesn’t Always Work” (by the way, you can sign up anytime by going to our home page and signing up there www.core-resourcing.com ), even if you have, I wanted to post this today to give you an understanding why the GFG program is so powerful and why in many ways we have wayyyy undersold it as such as just a “Goal Setting” course.

What GFG does differently than many other programs out there - and we’ve looked at lots - is that it addresses parts within us that often times, we don’t even realise exist.

You may have heard David talk about “the impressioning period” during his workshops or teleseminars.  This is the period of time, usually before we are even 7 years old, that many of our fundamental beliefs and values are formed. I don’t know about you, but I find it it very hard to remember exactly what happened when I was seven let alone before then, let alone remember what I thought about what was going on and why I based decisions on things that I saw and did when I was 3 years old for instance!  So we carry around these beliefs, this way of thinking about ourselves and what we are inherently capable of (or not), usually with no idea why we think the way we do….

So, an integral part of GFG is identifying within you, the “un useful stuff” so to speak - the thoughts and behaviours that to date may well have been the thing(s) that hold you back. And lets be honest, we all carry around some unuseful baggage, theres usually some good stuff to, so imagine being able to sort through this quickly, work out the pieces that aren’t serving you well and either change those beliefs to be something more constructive or indeed leaving those old thoughts and behaviours behind - now, and only now, can you truly focus on designing what we call “higher purpose values and goals” - the sort of things that really do get you out of bed in the morning, the sort of stuff that makes your soul sing when you really focus and drive yourself towards an outcome that you know you were destined to achieve.

As the above diagram illustrates, over the course of the six week program, it’s a simple 3 step process whereby we help you take stock of where you are now, identify whats working and whats not (and apply the Core-Resourcing change patterns to fix the stuff that isn’t helpful) and then help you design where you truly want to be. The goods news is this works for people who count themselves as “strong” goal setters right through to people who have no idea what it is they really want in life - the strategy applies to all.

Anyway, I hope this helps you understand a little more about why perhaps the stuff you want to achieve just always seems elusive - often it’s not your fault, but then again, you are the only one that can fix it!

For more information on the Going For Gold - GFG - Goal Getting course go to http://core-resourcing.com/Goal-Setting-Success-1.html

So often I hear people say, “You just have to accept it” or “oh well - I guess that was just meant to happen” - fuey!

What I’ve come to learn over the past few years and this has been very much reinforced lately with my association with David Martin in becoming involved with the creation of the Go For Gold personal transformation program -  the reality is, the decisions we make and the subsequent actions we take, dictate what happens in the course of our lives - both in relation to achieving our long term goals and what happens to us, and how we feel about what happens to us, on a daily basis.

Sure, there will always be things that do happen that are outside of our sphere of control - however, how we react and the meaning we attach to those events is entirely controlled by us.

When you start to take this level of personal responsibility for your own actions and the subsequent outcomes that you get to enjoy - suddenly the world can become a very different place. Regardless of economy, the government, your boss or any other external factor that in the past you may have been tempted to “point the finger” at.

Not only is this liberating, it also allows you to feel very much more in control.  And when you feel in control and focussed - you are better able and of more use to, those around you.

If you are looking to make positive changes in your life and take control of your thinking, your actions and ultimately your financial well being, your health and your happiness, I’d really encourage you to start the Go for Gold program today!

Below is an intro video that David prepared to step you through what’s inside workbooks 1,2 and 3.

There is another video that shows workbooks 4,5 and 6 available here.

Women go though many phases in their lives. Lest of which is a phase which appears to be more and more common right across the western world today.

That is the stage in their life when a number of events and circumstances seem to converge together. Some are natural & some are imposed, but regardless of who they are, or where they are, they will experience some or all of these things whether they want to or not.

This “converging” of events is definable and very important. In fact so important that for many, the decisions that they make during this phase may indeed influence the rest of their life.

Currently the largest group of people in the World, are the combined groups called Baby Boomers and X Gen’s.

Baby Boomers are people born after World War II & cover an 18 year period from 1946 till 1964 in which 76 million babies were born in the U.S, over a Billion World wide.

X Gen’s are people born between 1964 and 1976 that’s 51 million people (considerably smaller than the boomer group but never the less a large number). That means that boomers are currently aged between 45 & 63 and X Gen’s aged between 33 & 45 right now.

Let’s say that approximately 50% of them are women.

That’s a lot of people!

If we were to generalize about the culture of the world and about popular accepted beliefs as this group of women grew up, entered the work force, got married, left the work force started families and then later re entered the work force and how women saw themselves and how they fitted into society during that time. Then all of these factors have contributed to the “Phase” in their lives that they (to a greater or lesser degree) may have gone though or may be going though right now.

So what is this “Phase” and what are the changes that occur?

The Phase can be broken down into groups of events:

1. The kids, who you have loved & invested the last 16 to 20 years into looking after, finally leave home. Or your kids are now teens or pre teens.

2. Menopause Strikes!

3. You begin to hunger for more from life.

4. They start to feel old

5. Divorce.

These events aren’t necessary connected other than that circumstance and age appear to converge at around the same time, and the emotional nature of the events have a Chris crossing influence on other events, for this very large group of women.

The Kids grow up and leave home.

You may have been longing for or dreading this moment for a long time. On the one hand;

Finally can do what YOU want to do.
Finally you’re getting your independence back.
Finally you can have a career or pick up the one that you put aside to have kids.
Finally you can have your own money or can study, enjoy a sense of going somewhere where you feel like you belong, have a sense of community, and are doing something you enjoy.
Finally you are more than just a Mum & a Wife. You can create a new and exciting identity.

Or

You feel lonely perhaps even feels a real sense of loss, even a loss of purpose.
Now you have too much time on your hands, to much time to think and dwell.
Now your mind plays games with your self confidence and self worth as you think about the past & the future.
Now is not a good time, as every one else around you seems to be doing important things in interesting places with other people, while you sit at home.

Menopause Strikes

Menopause signals the ending of the reproductive cycle for a woman. As such, their body will go though natural hormonal changes that will influence how they feel how they cope and how they behave. Pre menopause often begins in the early 40’s but can begin earlier. Where they may still be having periods but the symptoms of menopause such as hot flashes or night sweats, start to occur.

Research suggests that menopause can last till their mid 50’s and for some, for the rest of their life.

The condition can affect a women’s libido, it can produce mood swings sudden tears or fatigue. It can produce sleeplessness & night sweats which adds to their fatigue. It can cause memory loss, momentary confusion and a loss of concentration.

It can produce sudden dizziness, weight gain, anxiety, depression, irritability and headaches. As well as aching or sore tendons muscles and joints. (Unfortunately these aren’t all of the symptoms).

They Hunger for More

They start to wonder “what If” what if I had stayed with my career. What if I had traveled or I should have. Where would I be now? Is this all there is? Is this it? What now?

They Start to Feel Old

I personally don’t know many women who aren’t constantly giving themselves a hard time about their weight or other invisible blemishes that only they can see.

Both Boomers and X Gen’s are not enjoying what age is doing to their bodies and are very interested in anything that will delay the aging process.

Divorce

When I say this, it’s not because I believe that the first four are the cause of divorce. I’m not saying that divorce is the women’s fault. (Statistically this may not be their first marriage either)
Divorce at this stage of life has as much to do with their husband’s mental emotional and physical changes as it does to their wife’s. (More on that in a later article)

What can happen is that during their life together to date, which could be 5 to 20 or more years, they have simply not stayed “connected.”
For him or for her, their interests may have changed their values maybe different. Their needs within a relationship, what they want from a relationship may have changed.

What seems to be common is a “questioning.”

Who am I? What do I want? What have I achieved? Where am I going? A sense of resentment that they haven’t lived the life they now realize they want to live.

If they don’t learn to support each other and communicate with each other through this time, then they may indeed end up parting.
Often that parting is not done well or honestly. Often it is not by mutual consent. Often it is a complete shock to the one being left; leaving them feeling bruised humiliated and abandoned by their partner.

(All of this may leave you feeling a little sad, that isn’t my intention. Remember not all relationships end, the sky does not fall and the sun still rises each day and many relationships grow stronger).

So where does that leave us?

For many women this convergence of events, this cocktail of circumstances, leaves them feeling nervous but they know it’s just what they have to do (if they were the one leaving).

For others it can leave them feeling venerable at one end of the scale and vengeful at the other (If they were the one who was left).

For many women it is a time of searching, a journey of discovery. It may feel like a mid life crisis but really is a mid life awakening.
Most intuitively know that it’s up to them to make the most out of themselves even if they don’t yet know how.

And at some point it dawns on them that they have been doing that their whole lives anyway.

So once the guilt of leaving; or the pain of being left begins to fade. Once the acceptance of the challenge begins to settle, what begins to blossom is a stronger more determined women who knows in her heart, that to do more than just survive, to do more than just live day to day, she must trust her self, let go, learn and grow.

What becomes very important is their friends their security and their independence.

As a generalization, for many women Baby Boomers they realize that historically all of the family’s finances were handled by their husbands. They realize that they may not know how to buy a house organize a mortgage or run house hold accounts let alone run a business or write a CV or how to handle a job Interview. But now they either have to or want to.

As a generalization, for many female X Gen’s, they may already be familiar with many of those elements but may still feel the tug of loneliness that creeps up at night as they lay alone staring at the ceiling, worrying about their own ability to put food on the table & succeed.

What is clearly evident either because of crisis or because of desire, what these women want is to be more financially independent. Feel more confident. Be in more control of their lives and their destiny. And be loved.

They want to learn more about the creation of money, business, tax, health, Wills and Trusts.

How to set meaningful goals.

How to feel more confident.

How to stand up for themselves.

How to get rid of doubt and fear.

How to let go of the past and break free from negative emotions.

How to trust again; feel safe without compromising their independence. Stop feeling insecure needy or guilty.
And that there is a difference between selfishness and self preservation.

They want to redefine who they are, create empowering rules that enable them to say “No” to unhealthy relationships, be free to follow their hearts and be able to really balance work play kids and relationships without having to put aside their own needs.

What women want is what we all want, to be happy and free.
And our “Go For Gold - Goal Setting That Really Works” Program, empowers them to do that.

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Thinking and our individual process for thinking, is a learnt and largely unconscious thing

that we each do, when we are not consciously and deliberately thinking about something in particular.

That’s why we can successfully do simple things like walk down a busy street while chatting to a friend and

successfully negotiate most of the streets hazards like avoiding bumping into other people, all at the same time.

We’re not necessarily consciously thinking about it, yet we are still multi-tasking in that way while leaving it in the background of our overall thinking, while our attention is someplace else.

Another example of that is; have you ever driven somewhere and just arrived? Not being able to consciously recall parts of the journey because you had wandered off into thought.

Having said that, even the way most people think, when they are concentrating on a particular thought or event or idea, is still subject to the unconscious rules that a person uses to do things. Let’s take decision making for example.

A decision might be made based on facts or information, or from conversations and recommendations, or on a previous experience, or on loyalty or obligation or simply because it feels right.
And that process may have taken a short time or a long time over a number of times.
Whatever it is; the person making the decision, will probably use the decision making strategy that they always use (in that area of their life) all of the time.

That means that most people aren’t aware of how they make their decisions about a thing or how they make their judgments of a thing.

Largely for the same reasons.

It’s a unconscious routine, or habitual way of thinking, that they have gotten used to. And as such, it runs in the background of their thinking, all of the time. Like the sub routine in a computer.

What You Dwell on Grows

There’s a big “So what!” in there somewhere so I’ll get to my point.

My point is that the thoughts that dominate our mind, how we fill that space; both useful or un-useful, are the very building blocks on which all things are created.

If we fill our minds eye with thoughts of loss or lack, then that’s quite literally all we will see.
Because our Reticular Activating System (Our Brains Built in Laser Guidance and Sighting System) will only seek and find the people events and circumstances that are consistent with what we fill our minds with. And if that happens to be un-useful, so the downward spiral begins.

It’s the same with eating, fill up on junk food and you’ll literally be full of junk. Clogging up your body and accumulating fat.

If you fill your mind with junk, guess what, the same thing happens with your creativity adaptability problem solving resilience and overall thinking.

But! If you fill your body with “Fuel” foods you will be full of energy.
And; if you fill your mind with “Fueling” thoughts, you will be amazed by what you can achieve.

Make your body and mind, junk free zones!

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Someone once said that most problems in life, talk back. In other words, most of our problems are to do with other people.

But I think that most of the problems we have in life, start earlier than that, I think they start with the conversations that we have with ourselves, in our minds.

And that what we experience in the outside world is largely a reflection of what is happening inside ourselves.

We look out at the world and we talk to ourselves about what we see. We sit inside of ourselves & we chat to ourselves about everything; what we like, what we dislike what we agree with or disagree with; you might be sitting out there now, doing exactly that, about everything I’ve written here.
And the quality of those conversations, will colour our decisions.

It’s been estimated that people talk to themselves at about 450 words per minute.

And that the average vocabulary is between 50 to 100 commonly used words.

The conversations that people have with each other are generally edited versions of what they say to themselves. People are generally much blunter and harsher, with themselves. And when you hear how some people speak to their family or peers, it really makes me wonder what they must be saying to themselves.

Most self talk is either questions or statements. It’s them asking themselves questions or casting judgments on X.

The question I ask is around the quality of those questions and statements are they useful and empowering or un-useful and destructive?

Remember your brain is one of the most powerful computers in existence. It has an exponentially massive data base of possibilities and stored information. But, as when using a search engine on the internet, if you type in the wrong question, that search engine will give you thousands if not millions, of wrong unsupportive and unhelpful answers.

Even the tone of voice that a person might use with themselves is important. The volume, pitch and speed. Angry, name calling condescending, victimized or confident. All of these resonate and have meaning, within a persons mind.

Some people are very hard on themselves, you’ll hear them say things like; “I’m dumb,”
“I always get it wrong,” “ I’m useless,” “Why is this happening to me”

These kinds of affirmations especially if said with real passion are very destructive and reinforce any existing disempowering beliefs.

Whoever said, that sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me, didn’t quite get it right.

A question I ask is; if you had a friend who talked to you, the way you talk to you, would you still be their friend?

Most people would answer no.

Yet they keep doing it to themselves, and it feeds their dislike of themselves &
erodes their self esteem and potential.

Lastly; and at first glance this may seem a bit odd, But I ask “who’s voice” do they hear? Is it their voice, is it Mum’s voice, Is it Dad’s, or is it someone else who was important to you when you were growing up?

If what you hear them saying is useful, great, but if its not….

Here’s a question for all of the Parents out there. Have you every caught yourself saying something to your kids, that your parents said to you as a kid, that you promised yourself, you would never say?

I teach people how to tip the balance back in their favor and those results are reflected in their day to day experiences, the achievement of their goals and their quality of life.

Back to Decision Making

Let’s come all the way back to decision making. We’ve talked about how all of these things influence our decisions, so decision making is a key ingredient right!

So the question has to be asked,

If I make better decisions will I get more of what I want?

The answer is, Yes and No.

Yes because good decision making is a key ingredient, and Yes because better decision making generally leads to better results and No because our decision making is greatly influenced and guided by what we already believe to be true and how we store and organize those beliefs.

In other words, what we imagine we are capable or incapable of. And if those thoughts and feelings aren’t useful and supportive, THAT’S where most people get stuck!

Or they get to a “Point of Choice” where they can go either left or right and instead of making a clean decision, they make an automatic decision based on their existing rules.

Learn to create better “rules” for yourself at…www.core-resourcing.com