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Women go though many phases in their lives. Lest of which is a phase which appears to be more and more common right across the western world today.

That is the stage in their life when a number of events and circumstances seem to converge together. Some are natural & some are imposed, but regardless of who they are, or where they are, they will experience some or all of these things whether they want to or not.

This “converging” of events is definable and very important. In fact so important that for many, the decisions that they make during this phase may indeed influence the rest of their life.

Currently the largest group of people in the World, are the combined groups called Baby Boomers and X Gen’s.

Baby Boomers are people born after World War II & cover an 18 year period from 1946 till 1964 in which 76 million babies were born in the U.S, over a Billion World wide.

X Gen’s are people born between 1964 and 1976 that’s 51 million people (considerably smaller than the boomer group but never the less a large number). That means that boomers are currently aged between 45 & 63 and X Gen’s aged between 33 & 45 right now.

Let’s say that approximately 50% of them are women.

That’s a lot of people!

If we were to generalize about the culture of the world and about popular accepted beliefs as this group of women grew up, entered the work force, got married, left the work force started families and then later re entered the work force and how women saw themselves and how they fitted into society during that time. Then all of these factors have contributed to the “Phase” in their lives that they (to a greater or lesser degree) may have gone though or may be going though right now.

So what is this “Phase” and what are the changes that occur?

The Phase can be broken down into groups of events:

1. The kids, who you have loved & invested the last 16 to 20 years into looking after, finally leave home. Or your kids are now teens or pre teens.

2. Menopause Strikes!

3. You begin to hunger for more from life.

4. They start to feel old

5. Divorce.

These events aren’t necessary connected other than that circumstance and age appear to converge at around the same time, and the emotional nature of the events have a Chris crossing influence on other events, for this very large group of women.

The Kids grow up and leave home.

You may have been longing for or dreading this moment for a long time. On the one hand;

Finally can do what YOU want to do.
Finally you’re getting your independence back.
Finally you can have a career or pick up the one that you put aside to have kids.
Finally you can have your own money or can study, enjoy a sense of going somewhere where you feel like you belong, have a sense of community, and are doing something you enjoy.
Finally you are more than just a Mum & a Wife. You can create a new and exciting identity.

Or

You feel lonely perhaps even feels a real sense of loss, even a loss of purpose.
Now you have too much time on your hands, to much time to think and dwell.
Now your mind plays games with your self confidence and self worth as you think about the past & the future.
Now is not a good time, as every one else around you seems to be doing important things in interesting places with other people, while you sit at home.

Menopause Strikes

Menopause signals the ending of the reproductive cycle for a woman. As such, their body will go though natural hormonal changes that will influence how they feel how they cope and how they behave. Pre menopause often begins in the early 40’s but can begin earlier. Where they may still be having periods but the symptoms of menopause such as hot flashes or night sweats, start to occur.

Research suggests that menopause can last till their mid 50’s and for some, for the rest of their life.

The condition can affect a women’s libido, it can produce mood swings sudden tears or fatigue. It can produce sleeplessness & night sweats which adds to their fatigue. It can cause memory loss, momentary confusion and a loss of concentration.

It can produce sudden dizziness, weight gain, anxiety, depression, irritability and headaches. As well as aching or sore tendons muscles and joints. (Unfortunately these aren’t all of the symptoms).

They Hunger for More

They start to wonder “what If” what if I had stayed with my career. What if I had traveled or I should have. Where would I be now? Is this all there is? Is this it? What now?

They Start to Feel Old

I personally don’t know many women who aren’t constantly giving themselves a hard time about their weight or other invisible blemishes that only they can see.

Both Boomers and X Gen’s are not enjoying what age is doing to their bodies and are very interested in anything that will delay the aging process.

Divorce

When I say this, it’s not because I believe that the first four are the cause of divorce. I’m not saying that divorce is the women’s fault. (Statistically this may not be their first marriage either)
Divorce at this stage of life has as much to do with their husband’s mental emotional and physical changes as it does to their wife’s. (More on that in a later article)

What can happen is that during their life together to date, which could be 5 to 20 or more years, they have simply not stayed “connected.”
For him or for her, their interests may have changed their values maybe different. Their needs within a relationship, what they want from a relationship may have changed.

What seems to be common is a “questioning.”

Who am I? What do I want? What have I achieved? Where am I going? A sense of resentment that they haven’t lived the life they now realize they want to live.

If they don’t learn to support each other and communicate with each other through this time, then they may indeed end up parting.
Often that parting is not done well or honestly. Often it is not by mutual consent. Often it is a complete shock to the one being left; leaving them feeling bruised humiliated and abandoned by their partner.

(All of this may leave you feeling a little sad, that isn’t my intention. Remember not all relationships end, the sky does not fall and the sun still rises each day and many relationships grow stronger).

So where does that leave us?

For many women this convergence of events, this cocktail of circumstances, leaves them feeling nervous but they know it’s just what they have to do (if they were the one leaving).

For others it can leave them feeling venerable at one end of the scale and vengeful at the other (If they were the one who was left).

For many women it is a time of searching, a journey of discovery. It may feel like a mid life crisis but really is a mid life awakening.
Most intuitively know that it’s up to them to make the most out of themselves even if they don’t yet know how.

And at some point it dawns on them that they have been doing that their whole lives anyway.

So once the guilt of leaving; or the pain of being left begins to fade. Once the acceptance of the challenge begins to settle, what begins to blossom is a stronger more determined women who knows in her heart, that to do more than just survive, to do more than just live day to day, she must trust her self, let go, learn and grow.

What becomes very important is their friends their security and their independence.

As a generalization, for many women Baby Boomers they realize that historically all of the family’s finances were handled by their husbands. They realize that they may not know how to buy a house organize a mortgage or run house hold accounts let alone run a business or write a CV or how to handle a job Interview. But now they either have to or want to.

As a generalization, for many female X Gen’s, they may already be familiar with many of those elements but may still feel the tug of loneliness that creeps up at night as they lay alone staring at the ceiling, worrying about their own ability to put food on the table & succeed.

What is clearly evident either because of crisis or because of desire, what these women want is to be more financially independent. Feel more confident. Be in more control of their lives and their destiny. And be loved.

They want to learn more about the creation of money, business, tax, health, Wills and Trusts.

How to set meaningful goals.

How to feel more confident.

How to stand up for themselves.

How to get rid of doubt and fear.

How to let go of the past and break free from negative emotions.

How to trust again; feel safe without compromising their independence. Stop feeling insecure needy or guilty.
And that there is a difference between selfishness and self preservation.

They want to redefine who they are, create empowering rules that enable them to say “No” to unhealthy relationships, be free to follow their hearts and be able to really balance work play kids and relationships without having to put aside their own needs.

What women want is what we all want, to be happy and free.
And our “Go For Gold - Goal Setting That Really Works” Program, empowers them to do that.

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It’s been said that the purpose of life is to find your purpose in life.
If that’s true, then for a lot of people that goal can sometimes be “elusive.”

If you think back to when you were a kid and someone asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Most of us Baby Boomers or X Gen’s would probably have said something like, a Policemen, a Truck Driver, a Doctor or Nurse, a Firemen, a super hero or whatever Mum and Dad did, or whatever was popular on TV at the time.

There’s an abundance of evidence to suggest that if you ask a child that question at ages 7 and 14 and if their answer is the same each time, then there’s a weightier probability that that’s what they will do when they grow up.

For many people, the years between those ages and during the socialization period (ages 14 to 21) things can happen that causes their dream to become blurred or change or even be forgotten, as events and circumstances change their desires, focus or confidence.

As adults, it can be challenging to get past the “Stuff” in our lives and truly reach for what we had intended.
For some, they may not even be sure of what they want any more.
For some, even if they do know what they want, they may feel apprehensive about even attempting to go for it.

And for others, they may have tried to reach for their stars but live with the memories of disillusion having failed to achieve their dream.

The reality is life doesn’t have to be like that. There are people achieving their goals everyday and you can be one of them.

The challenge for most people is not their lack of looks, talent, skill or ability or even connections. Their real challenge is to get past the fact that they “believe” they are incapable of achieving their goal.
Because that decision to “believe” causes them to act in a manner consistent with that unuseful program.
Basically “locking down” or “Freezing” their real potential, into a state of suspended animation.

What that means is that they end up projecting to the world (through their attitude, how they stand, walk, talk, dress, what they will attempt and how they interact with others) is a hollow version of what they are really capable of.

That “transmission” attracts its equivalent in the world, in terms of experiences and opportunities events and circumstances and relationships.

Our Going for Goal – Goal Setting that Really Works, Sessions One, Two and Three are specifically designed to release the brakes, clear up any mental clutter, defrost and unlock your capability and free you to transform your self and enable you to live the life you dream of.

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Many times people come to me and say, “I just don’t have any energy and by the middle of the day I struggle to stay awake let alone concentrate.”

When that happens I normally start by asking a few questions, like;

Do you eat breakfast?

If you do have breakfast, what do you eat?

If you drink tea or coffee, how many do you drink each day? Do you add sugar to that?

Do you eat lunch? What?

How late is it before you eat dinner?

Do you drink coffee or tea before bed?

Do you exercise, how and when?

Even just answering these questions for yourself may give you some realizations about why you may or may not feel energized enough to last the whole day.

However let’s just take one part of that survey which is the primary subject of this Article and offer you a little challenge.
First get three glass jam jars.
Then for one week, keep a written record of how many cups of tea/coffee you have per day
Also keep a count of how many tea spoons of sugar you consume with each of those drinks. If you don’t drink tea or coffee, you can still try this challenge with whatever you do drink (soft drink, alcohol)

Then at the end of the week, pour that much tea into one of the jars.
Repeat the same with the coffee you consumed into a second jar, and
Finally, spoon that much raw/refined sugar into the last jar.

You might be shocked by what you discover.

In fact let’s dig a little deeper and talk about the caffeine in coffee and tea.

The positive effects of caffeine are quite useful.
1. Socially, it’s often the medium used to meet with friends.
2. Culturally different types of coffee and the place to drink it can be associated with a level of social status.
3 It stimulates the production of adrenalin which boosts your alertness
4. It is said to be good for your gall bladder because it reduces the risk of gallstones.
5. Coffee is an antioxidant. (More on the benefits of antioxidants in a future article)
6. It is said to enhance the efficiency of antibiotics. And
7. It is said to protect the liver against the harmful effects of alcohol and reduce the risk of liver cancer.

All of that sounds pretty exciting and enjoyable.

However, the Un-useful effects are as well documented and include;
1. The body losing calcium & magnesium
2. Stress hormones are elevated for long periods of time
3. Anti-aging hormones are decreased
4. Blood vessels constrict, reducing the flow of oxygen to your brain and body.
5. It increases muscle tension
6. It suppresses/impairs your immune and digestive systems
7. Your insulin levels spike creating a blood sugar rollercoaster.
8. Your liver and pancreas fight each other as one releases higher levels of sugar & fat into your blood stream & the other try’s to remove it and store it as fat.
9. Research suggests that there may be an increase in the possibility of cardiovascular diseases.
10. Your ability to concentrate and focus goes out the door as your body goes to war on itself.
11. It is addictive.

OK now that I’ve got your attention; let’s examine sugar.
No good news here I’m afraid.
1. Refined sugar has been linked to being one of the causes of gallstones. Very very painful.
2. Sugar robs the body of vitamin B which means that cells die and insulin production is strangled. Low insulin means high glucose levels in the bloodstream, which can lead to confused and other kinds of un useful mental states.(i.e. the sugar rage that some kids go though after eating to much chocolate, lollies or soft drinks. Did you know that one 12oz. Cola contains 11 teaspoons of sugar)
3. One expert Dr. David Reuben says, “…..white refined sugar-is not a food.”
In the refining process everything of food value has been removed.
4. Studies show that sugar has the same additive effect as many narcotics.

So if you consume a caffeine based drink, and consume sugar with it (or it has sugar in it). Whether you are aware of it or not, your brain, organs, muscles, cardio vascular system, immune system in fact most of your body is thrown into total chemical nightmare.

If after reading this you consider that it might be a good idea to quit or at least cut back on your consumption.
Just be aware that you may experience some symptoms like cravings, headaches and aches as your body goes though the withdrawal phase. As it will having been addicted to any drug.

The way though is to drink water when ever you used to drink the other. And use your usual coffee break to take a walk or do something else useful until the craving passes.
Substituting caffeine and sugar with activity seems to be a successful way of making the transition where as, Substituting either with say food is not.

Your initial enemy will be the un useful self talk that the cravings may generate like; “just one won’t hurt” or “I’ll start tomorrow.” Or reaching for the Chocolate Bar at the local 7/11.

One of the easiest ways of breaking though will be to support your goal by learning and utilizing the powerful patterns in Session One of my “Go for Gold, Goal Setting that Really Works” program because that will enable you to transform that un-useful stuff into more supportive and empowering beliefs that will strengthen you commitment and resolve.
Then it actually won’t take long to be free of the addiction to caffeine and sugar. Leaving you amazed by how you begin to feel, as your body gets back into sync with it self.

In this second video, your host and coach, David Martin, explains why people that have often already done other goal setting, time management or even self esteem building workshops are attracted to Going for Gold - Goal Setting that Really Works.

He explains that so often people go away for weekends or workshops, attend seminars etc all in the area of personal development or self improvement and whilst they are there, they are “in the zone” but as soon as they get home, or shortly afterward, life falls back in the normal “ruts”.

He steps through, in detail, the rich content of chapters 4,5 and 6.

The culmination of this is the discussion around chapter six - how to “Create the Ideal Life” - how all aspects of the course can be bought together practically, rapidly and in a sustainable way…..

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What does a person mean when they say “I’m Focused?”
l hear the word “focus” bandied around all the time.

Focus. That’s the advice that I hear Coaches give to their athletes.
Focus. That’s what I have heard teachers say to their students.
Focus. That’s what successful business people say when someone asks them how they became successful.

“I just, focused.”

Even if you ask a successful athlete or business person, “what do you do to focus?” Or “how do you focus?” Some might answer that question by saying something like, I worked hard, I studying hard or I practiced a lot. Which at first glance, all seem to be fairly logical ways of answering that question?

But when you really think about it, those answers still leave a lot of unanswered questions like; you focused on what specifically, and how specifically, and how often, and for how long?

The reality is that successful people, how ever you define success, have a tendency to focus in very specific ways.

Often they themselves are un-aware of the mental and emotional processes, that they go though, that causes them to get the results that they want.

So they can’t necessarily describe it to someone else, other than using words like, Focus.

And unfortunately, that word is a less than adequate explanation for the very real wealth of what they actually do.

And it can leave anyone trying to follow that advice feeling more than a little lost.

We can look at successful focused people, and from the outside looking in, they may seem untouchable, perhaps so far away from our present situation that it’s paralyzing to those of us, who want what they seem to have.

Of course it might also be inspiring; looking at them, may be the very thing that gets you motivated and up out of your chair and into action.

People often ask me, do successful people ever have a bad day, do they ever worry, feel doubt or stuff up?

The answer of course is YES! All human beings feel a full range of emotions, regardless of who they are, where they live or what’s in their bank account.

But there IS something that successful people do, that less successful people do not do… they focus in a very specific way.

The Good News

The good news is that, their results can be replicated, because today we understand the many secrets that were once locked inside that particular vault.

When I’m talking about Focus, I’m talking about two specific areas;

The first one is their mental focus. When I say that, I’m not talking about intellect. I’m talking about the internal representations that they make to themselves; what they visualize, what they hear as they imagine that and how that makes them feel. Including what they expect and what they believe.

The second part is the practical application of that; the way they behave how they use their time and where they put their energy and attention.

The big secret in this regard is that everything that we value, think, feel or remember, are all made up of certain elements, much in the same way that a raging river is really made up of trillions of individual H2O molecules.
As a species we already understand water, both it’s power and it’s potential, and we freely redirect it into things as diverse as drinking water on the one hand, and nuclear energy on the other.

So in the same way that we can redirect and change the use of water, with training these mental elements can easily be redirected and changed as well. Freeing a person to achieve what ever is important to them.

To see the video where we discuss the importance and mechanics of focus, check out

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